My friend can't talk to boys!?

I have a really close friend and through all the years I have known her she has NEVER opened up to a guy she likes. She REFUSES to give them any hints at all that she might want to pursue a relationship with them, and it drives me nuts!


Now she likes this guy, and she admits she MIGHT tell him she likes him...but I'm close to positive she's going to chicken out. I don't want her to be alone the rest of her life! How can I make her see that she is wonderful, beautiful, smart and interesting, and any guy would be lucky to have her like them??

My friend can't talk to boys!?
my best friend is just like that!


i have known her since we were little and grew up in the same neighborhood.


while i am out having boyfriends she is at home wishing the guy she liked would ask her out.


she complains to me about how its not fair that he doesnt like her back when the truth is she never even tried with the guy she just assumes.


it got to the point where i just couldnt stand listening to how much she liked this guy but she never went after him.


i finally told her "listen i love you with all of my heart and you should know that i am always here for you. and i still will be. but i dont want to hear about 1 boy you like one more time unless a) something bad has happend or b) you take a step towards him and show him that you like him." i told her she might be rejected but everyone gets rejected at some point and i will be right by her side if anything happends. and it worked!!!
Reply:you can't. she has to decide that it is worth it.





the best you can do is just tell her how you feel and warn her that you will tell him she likes him, if she doesn't.





stop letting her be like this.
Reply:she really has to see these qualities in herself and believe it.you are a good friend keep helping her out.she will overcome this.
Reply:does your friend have a email add or is there anyway i can contact her. i think i can do that job quite easily.
Reply:Intresting question, I'd like to hear the answers.
Reply:okay... just tell her that boys are just like girl only... you know why their different lol and tellher that their not bad or anything. Take her out and give her flirting tips and a makeover, and tell her to loosen up a bit geez!
Reply:Tell her about how great and cool and stuff she is, and that will build her confidence so that she will be able to just go for it. you can't force her to do it, but remind her that she definitely won't get the guy if she doesn't bother to ask him!
Reply:She's not gonna be alone for the rest of her life. She's just very shy so don't try and push her into anything, ok?





Let her take things at her own pace.
Reply:She is obiously shy and can't just walk up to them and say hey i fancy you, i cant even do that.





maybe, you could tell the guy that she likes, that she likes him for her,


or you could say when hes right behind you, do you fancy him? and then she would hopefully say yes and then he would like no, and that.
Reply:wow you are such a good friend
Reply:ask her if it's ok if you can say something to him.. maybe you could invite him into a group activity like a movie or to hang out at someone place.. yah know


but she sounds like she may have some issues.. no offense.. but i mean does she have guy friends?
Reply:You tell her exactly that-but sweetie, if she cant do it for herself, then theres nothing more you can do for her. Shes got to get some self confidence and build up the courage to do these things on her own. You can help along the way by going out with her, hanging out with her and hopefully through that, she will be able to do it by herself. But you cant hold her hand forever.
Reply:You might start off telling her prince charming is not going to come knocking at the door to sweep her off her feet.You might also say she has to do her part and make a sincere effort to chat with guys.They cannot read her mind.Her not saying or doing anything only adds to the problem of being so alone.She may have to take small steps before making larger ones. She has to be approachable and has to open up.I take it she has been hurt in the past. We all have..She will have to take chances some will work -some want but the important thing she is making an effort and in due time she will find someone.
Reply:You can't really force someone to do something she doesnt want to do. BUT, soon enough, shes gonna open up to guys. its hormones, its gonna happen. maybe you're just more developed than her, she isnt ready yet. dont worry, shes not going to be alone for the rest of her life. and if she REALLY REALLY REALLY likes this guy, she'll do something about it.
Reply:well baby datz da gurl fault .cuz if she wanna sit up der n play lyk she 2 cute den datz on her .i mean no matter how hard you tell her to do sumthing she ain't. cuz she gonna do it when she please. n honestly she missin out cuz diz guy may have a attraction towards her . but she ain't never gonna kno cuz she ain't never gonna do nothing.
Reply:I was like that!