Help!!! My parents are driving me to insanity!! Ideas to make it stop or block it out!!!!?

Help their driving me crazy, I can't pray or mediate cause they go in my room without knocking, if i don't respond they think I am ignoring them. ALso my dad has his own car and lately he has been taking my car with out permission, even though he bought me the car he thinks its his, i had plans to buy a gift for my fiance before he left , but guess what i couldnt cause he took my car , so am like ok i will take his car but now he took his his car keys, my mom wouldnt allow me to take her lexus oh excuse me, anyway lucky my fiance had a car pick me up/, but any ideas to cope with annoying parents?! i dont mean to come off snobby i appreciate them taking care of me and stuff, but i am going nuts i still have a good 7 months until i get married, how can i deal with these nuts?!! I can't move out because my culture dosent permit it i suggested to my mom and she freaked!! help!!! i am going crazy ?!!!!!!! I HaTE THEM!!!! HELP!!

Help!!! My parents are driving me to insanity!! Ideas to make it stop or block it out!!!!?
Relax, You only have 7 months to go, Have you tried talking to your dad and letting him know that you don't care that he takes your car ( Just tell him that ) but it would be nice if he left you his keys so you can go do the things you need to do, let both your parents know that it would be nice if they would knock before coming in your room that you need a little privacy and that you don't just walk in rooms when the door is closed you knock first, Just talk to them, they see you as their little girl not one that is growing up and soon to marry.
Reply:What is your culture? Who chose your fiance? Will he be just as bad? Does your culture teach that as long as you live under your parents' roof at their expense "your" car, which they bought, is theirs? You're asking for answers without giving us any information....


If you're praying and they just walk in, how do they know you are praying? Does your religion have a special posture, such as kneeling? If so, then leave the door open and kneel near the open doorway facing sort of away from it into your room and mumble while you pray. If they still interrupt you, heave a huge, aggravated sigh, and say something like "I'm sure whatever you have to say is much more important than my communing with God (Goddess, Shiva, whatever), so let me just get up off my knees right away", then look directly at them and wait silently. If nothing else they will be flustered and embarrassed. Maybe they will not interrupt your prayers again. See my answer is really general because you're not giving enough information for me to give you anything specific.
Reply:If you can't move out, then you need strategies to cope with the current situation. I would get a job if you don't already have one to get you closer to having your own car. Maybe even get a bike. Whatever you do, it seems like you need more freedom and to rely less on your parents. I would put a note on the door that says that you are praying and will be out in 15/30/45 min or something. You need to figure out what works with your parents. Maybe the note wont work, so in that case I would seek out a quiet place to meditate, like a park or field near your house.


Good luck!
Reply:Put a sign on your door, "Be courteous, knock first". Ride out the time, 7 months is a blip in your life. Go to your happy place and just tune them out.
Reply:This will continue until you are out of their house. It may actually be a campaign to get you to move out!





Sorry to say, that as long as your parents have access to your keys, they will be taking your car. You can remove your keys from their possession or have the locks changed. I would certainly recommend changing out the doorknob on your bedroom with one that has a keyed lock on it, and then wearing the key around your neck.





I would also suggest finding an alternate place to meditate... perhaps the local temple?





At any rate, do what you can to do your share around the house and keep a low profile for the next 7 months... the time will go by fast. Try getting a job so you can sock away some savings.
Reply:I know you have probably heard this a lot, but you really ought to wait until you get married until you are a little older and actually been on your own for a few years. I know you likely won't listen to me and will do it anyway, but from experience, waiting is the best thing to do - experience being on your own and find out who you are - for real. We all think we know who we are, but until you look back years later, you realize you didn't. I'm 24, and I am just now getting to know me. I am married - for two years now, but was on my own for 3 years before I married and I was one of those girls who couldn't wait to get married and settle down.





As for your parents, there really isn't anything you can do but try to work with them. We all go through at some point in our lives and you just have to learn to deal. If your dad bought you the car, it is his, he can do what he wants with it. When you have your own, then you have the right to say no. Since your lucky enough to even have your parents buy your car, suck it up. I don't think you really know what it is like to actually have something that you bought on your own - something as pricey as a car. Making your own car payments, cell phone bills - you sound like you don't even know what it is like to have your own bills and pay for them yourself. If you did, you would appreciate everything more - including what your parents do for you. They are just looking out for what is best for you - even if you don't see it now. They've been where you are and from experience, they have reasons if they say "yes" or "no" to something. You need to grow up a bit and realize everything in life isn't going to be handed to you on a platter - learn to work for it.
Reply:You are mature enough to get married? Well if you think you're mature to get married then MOVE OUT. If your dad bought the car for you, if its in HIS name, and he is paying the insurance on it, then really its HIS car.


If you don't move out then its a good seven months til you get out of the craziness, sorry.