I am having relationship issues...and i really need some advice.?

My boyfriend and I have a little girl who is adorable and 14 months. We are having a very difficult time with one another...he is a blend between boring, stressed out, unaffectionate , thick headed, and lacks emotion. I am not a perfect angel either, I get really stressed out and can be thick headed too. However, I enjoy the little things in life which make it easier. We have had multiple conversations about this whole thing...I would like him to be more affectionate, smile more, be excited about things, and just live on the edge here and there. We have been together for about 3 years this March. Since I became pregnant with our daughter our relationship has gone out the window. What can I do to put him at ease so things can lighten up around here. There is just so much tension all the time. Don't get me wrong. He is a very awesome man and dad, I should be lucky. But I need that fire back in our lives, or else I am going to go nuts.


Thank you!

I am having relationship issues...and i really need some advice.?
Since both of your lives are probably very stressful and busy, you should tell him to take one day off the week (e.g sunday) to just spend time with you. Do that every week...talk things over, go to a nice restaurant, etc. Although he can be negative, it is important to keep smiling and do things for him. I'm sure his attitude will change after a while.
Reply:I have no kids, but I know that when I was young, and my parents were having a hard time with their relationship, they would go out, see a movie, and stay at a hotel for the night. The would leave us with a close family member, who had kids, so they could be trusted. You and your boyfriend can have some action, and get to know each other more. Having a child is very stressful, and can separate people easily... It is perfectly normal. Good Luck
Reply:well i dont no how to help u bye
Reply:Well, I got pregnant at 16, and I am 24 and have 2 kids..it ain't easy, but we are over our 8 year mark now. The key thing I found is that a sitter is the key thing!!! They can be really hard to find. Aside from both of you probably wanting to spend time with the baby and eachother, a night out with just the two of you makes things that much better. If you can, an all night sitter is the way to go. We even did a hotel a couple of times, baby with or not, the atmosphere or even rearranging your house can help. It puts a change from every day common routine. Just make time for eachother for it to be "just you two." It sounds like time alone with eachother in a different change of scenary might give that ummfh of something different. Guests or small party can relief some stress too.
Reply:wow you have a real problem, is it posible you are taking each other for granted? could you plan an evening for just the 2 of you. and just talk
Reply:I think you can both enjoy some time alone where you can put something sexy on and have some intimate time together! Calling him and in your sexy voice telling the things you want to do to him! I mean sex can really take some of the stress off for both of you! Try giving each other hot oil massages! Break the ice watching a funny movie! or one weekend you guys do something he really enjoys and then the following weekend you both do something you enjoy! Being in a relationship is a partnership where both parties need to be satisfied to make it work! Keep it at it as along as both are willing, then the love shouldn't end!