My three year old is driving me NUTS!!!?

I have a three year old son, very well behaved, speech is great and everyone seems to love him! He is my best friend but here is the problem, HE WONT LEAVE ME ALONE!!! All day everyday he is at my side, he won't play in his room, or watch a movie, even when I put him in the back yard he stands at the sliding glass door screaming "Mommy, mommy mommy... I love you" I should feel lucky I know and my husband tells me that all the time... but I need a break, and an hour long nap a day (if he decides to take it) just isnt enough! I love him to death but I need some advice... PS, I can't afford child care! I am NOT exaggerating!!!

My three year old is driving me NUTS!!!?
I have a 7 year old,3 year old,a 9month old,all girls,and one due in feb.I definetley know youre not exxagerating,but it sounds like you maybe havent forced independance.I know its really hard,and it will break your heart to do so,but any parenting magazine talks about making them have one hour a day by themselves to develop independance,and especially at this age its very important,to prepare for preschool.Try talking to him to tell him youll be going to school soon son,you need to know what its like to have a little time without mommy,play in your room with...whatever it may be and every time he comes out, tell him the same thing and take him back to his room and leave,it sounds mean,but Ive done alot of reading on this and gotten my info from magazines by experts.Being consistent is most important.It will hurt your heart to do this,but after a few days of doing this at the same time every day and not swaying in your consistency,it will get easier and he will start having some independance.Start encouraging school and preparing him for this now,and motivate him that being away from mommy for a while makes him a big boy.Always encourage him with reassurance.I hope this helped
Reply:My 3 year old daughter is the same way. I know this isn't helpful and it's very cliche, but try to enjoy it. If there's anything I learned from my 2 older sons, it won't be much longer before they don't want to spend as much time with you and you end up longing for the days when you felt needed.





Maybe if you go outside into the backyard with him, but gradually, everyday, start putting more and more distance between the 2 of you as you play, you may be able to sit up toward the house eventually as he plays in the backyard. Just enough for you to take a breath and maybe read a book or something to relax for a few minutes. Just remember, the more you try to push them away, the clingier they get. So as long as you spend some time playing with him everyday, he'll get more and more comfortable playing on his own.
Reply:he wants your attention.


try to find other kids in the neighborhood his age.


get to know the parents.


your not alone.


those other parents are in the same situation.


find someone else foe the little one to play with.
Reply:Well he is very attached to you.





You probably need to find some woman with kids so he can play with them while you talk with their moms.





He is very attached to you! :)





Its a good thing and a bad thing.





Good things:


- He loves you


- He looks up to you





Bad things:


- He depends on you


- Its going to be tough for him to go to school/daycare if he is always around you.


- He might feel strange around other people





Anyways, take him out more, let him talk to other kids and play with them!





Wish you luck! :)
Reply:I understand you can't afford childcare, but have you thought of pre-school? Apart form the fact that 3 year olds need some sort of structure at that stage of life, and preschool also keeps them away from dropping out of school later in life, he will find it fascinating. Part time pre-school is not as expensive as childcare, and to cover the costs, maybe you can try somehow to cover the costs? I guess you need to figure this out yourself - a part-time job or cut down other expenses.





He will learn to make friends and maybe then you can arrange for play dates for him too. That way he will leave you alone.





Apart form that you can take him to the park or library where you might come across similar aged kids and try to form freindships with them.
Reply:My 3 yr old is in head start and has loved most of it. Try to see if they have one in your area. My girl seems to be in every little bit of my business every part of the day. Its that the child loves you and I have a hard time understanding this. Its kinda like the kiddo is too clingy I just have to sit back and remember that one day not too far from now she will be 15 and will not anything from me but my car. Enjoy ur time
Reply:Take him to grandparents house and little by little he will grow close to someone else. You are the most familiar to him and of course crying his eyes out if he feels like your leaving him in the back yard while closing the door on him.


make him social by taking him to the park and getting to know other family members, maybe other kids int he family, that has really helped me.