How do I win back my love after breaking her heart.... more than once?

This question is a repost of sorts, I have received some great feedback and I am looking for more. Here is the situation; I am a 33 year divorced father of 2 boys (ages 4 %26amp; 6) I have been raising them mostly on my own as my "baby mama" is a nut job. I was lucky enough to meet and fall in love with a wonderful woman. I had no intentions on looking for love after my divorce, I just wanted to be a daddy, but when you aren't looking love finds you. Anyway... We have been together for about a year and a half now and have only a few issues in our relationship. Most of them are the common everyday problems that arise in all relationships, we take great pride in our ability to communicate our concerns and solve the issues quickly.





The big one, a possible deal breaker is this: I have been very wishy washy when it comes to the number of children we would have if we were to marry. She has none of her own and at first I wanted no more. It caused us to split and she moved out of my house.

How do I win back my love after breaking her heart.... more than once?
honestly there might not be much you can do. but the best way to win her trust back is to be absolutely honest with her. i as a women know that you only have a certain amount of years to actually bear a child. seeing as how you say you are in you 30's, i am guessing that she is also. most women once they hit 28 are ready to have children. and you have to think. she is telling you that she wants this baby. which probably means that she will want to be the one caring for the child. she will probably only need you for a little financial and emotional help. you can't punish her for the way you ex did you. and if you let the past interfere with now, then you really need to let her go. time doesn't stay still. every month you let pass is precious time you could already have with a child that will love you forever.
Reply:Well she did not respect your feelings. Sounds like she want to trap you.
Reply:the point is you go forward with what you are doing. and never


go backward.
Reply:if u love this woman and are sincere, marry her, forget what was in your past and don't take it out on this one what your ex did. if u love her and want to keep her marry her and make it right with her, every woman wants children and a husband who loves her. u can proove it by your behavior, and actions.
Reply:if she's ready to try again, she'll be there. Just give it some time.


Try not to be wishy-washy with her any more.


Either you do or you don't want children
Reply:I don't think you're stable enough to be married and have more kids. And, I have to wonder if you're not getting off on playing this control game. Quite frankly, having a 4 and 6 year old is already a full-time job and more work and expense than most people want and can afford. And, you're thinking about possibly having 1 or 2 more? Why do I get the feeling you're just completely nuts?
Reply:I honestly don't think you're serious. I think you want your cake and you want to eat it too. I'm not going to try to make you feel bad or anything, cuz having kids is a big deal %26amp; if you don't want them, you don't want them BUT you've come to the same conclusion after breaking up MULTIPLE TIMES that you want kids, then suddenly change your mind after she gets back with you. You're going to do the exact same thing this time, history doesn't lie.


Wanna prove me, and more importantly your heartbroken ex girlfriend wrong?


Buy a ring, and have a prenuptual agreement put together - tell her she gets EVERYTHING if you back out again. That's pretty reassuring - and a very costly thing if you do decide to go chicken again.