Would you hold on? Would you have faith in his change or use his past against him?is love enough?

I am a 25 yr old mom/2 my husband made a mistake lots of ppl make but he got caught. He recvd a 6 yr sent. for first offence. hes been gone for 3 1/2 years now and im still here for him. I just was curious as to how many would stay and leave. It is rough w/o sex even rougher being lonely but i manage to hold on. And we have a great marraige we both honor and value more than anthg. We have better commun. over the miles then alot of couples who see each other 24 7. Our love grows every day even when we dont talk. we have learned to take nothing for granted b/c you never know when it will be taken from you.I dont know what I would do w/o him. He always reassures me when it gets rough and reminds me of allI have accomplshd. He is in prison and keeps me sane! Even given the situation I feel like the luckiest girl in the world. Thats why I wait. I know how wondrfl he is and I have faith in him. Do you thnk u could put a mans past aside and wait 6 yrs for him or do u thnk im nuts?

Would you hold on? Would you have faith in his change or use his past against him?is love enough?
Firstly I admire your strength and believe in your husband and he should be the luckiest man to have you as a wonderful wife.You have given him ample chance and I hope he changes for the better for your sake and the sacrifice you have made.


Since you have decided to wait, wait and once he is out see if things work out and if for whatever reason it doesn't(touch wood) than my suggestion is no more chance to be given.





So be brave and wait......good luck.
Reply:The more people change, the more they stay the same.





Not every one commits felonies.





If your children do what your husband has done is that going to be OK?





Yes, I think you should be exploring your alternatives.... .
Reply:well if you really love him don't care for the past.


it's past and you can't change it it already happened.


i think you still love him because you still keep on waiting for him.


when his back don't focus what happened in the past just think of a better future for the whole family.


good luck....
Reply:it is very clear that you love him so i see nothing wrong with waiting on him it is what you want that is never crazy that is true love
Reply:real good for you if you can do it. and you will both have a good life.
Reply:I admire your loyalty and think your husband is lucky to be loved so much.
Reply:It sounds like you really love him. You didn't tell us what he did to go to prison, so that is the only factor I would worry about. If it was something totally reprehensible and repugnant I would not expect him to change very much.





Prison often makes people "better" criminals, so to speak. He will be different when he gets out. Be prepared for that. Also, you're in for some hard times when he gets out. He'll probably have trouble finding a decent job. Are you prepared to deal with that? These are just some things to consider. I'm not telling you to leave him. Only you can know whether you should or not. God bless you and your children.
Reply:Some people are willing to wait, others won't. This is a question only you can answer.
Reply:Personally, if my bf went to prison, he's on his own. If he knew that he could go to prison for his crime he therefor couldn't love me that much or he wouldn't risk seperating us.





He's the one in prison, I'd see no reason for me to suffer too.
Reply:If the mistake he made wasn't against a person, then I see no reason why you can't remain committed to your marriage.


There are family visits when he gets close to being released...it's called family reunification. Hang in there....if you leave him and by the time he gets out you may not have found a new relationship that is as loving as what you are questioning.


The deal breaker for me would be if he gets in trouble and gets time added to his sentence. He has to make every effort to get home ASAP.


I wish you all the best.
Reply:No one can tell you what is right for you. I would have trouble waiting that long but i might. Stay true to you and what is right for you.





Good luck
Reply:It's clear that you love him. Whether or not to stay with him depends on what he did. Is he ready to tell you he won't do it again and mean it? I say stay for now, but if you see any evidence he is on the same track after he comes out leave him, you have your kids to think about.
Reply:If you love him, anytime is worth the wait. If you are going to use his past against him forever...that will spell trouble.
Reply:you're not nuts,you just have more faith than most would have in their spouse
Reply:He's in jail cuz he 'got caught'. regardless if your relationship is good....he wouldve kept on doing something 'illegal'. He's being 'forced' by PRISON...not by choice to put a past aside.





You dont say what he's done, so, guess you and your kids are proud of him and can wait and hope that his prison time....HE will realize the loss of his family for 6 years. sad
Reply:you have obviously excused him for whatever it was he dis by saying lots of people do it, so putting the past behind you is a non issue since you see nothing wrong with his past.... so the real question could be





If your mate was framed, you would you run?





no I wouldnt I would be there, easy for me to say/think from where I am sitting, hats off to you!..

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