Have you ever interfered with your ex's right to see his kids? Why?

I keep hearing that such a high percentage of men are denied the right to see their children. I am not saying that doesn't happen, I just don't get it. I am lucky, I have a great ex (an oxymoron, I know). He is a great father and has been vital in raising/guiding our kids (I am the custodial parent). Of all my divorced friends, I only know one who has interferred with visitation. But she's a nut and was before he married her and had a child. I know no other women who have done this, and I have a lot of divorced friends.





And, under what circumstances is it ever justified to interfere with a parent's visitation?

Have you ever interfered with your ex's right to see his kids? Why?
I would never interfere with my ex seeing his son. They have a great time together and even though I don't agree with everything he does, as long as its not hurtful to my child, I stay out of it. My older child used to live with my mother and she actually interfered with my seeing him. She was (and still is) extremely controlling and I believe that was her motivation. I don't believe she was trying to hurt me, but she truly thinks that because my son lived with her, that she had the right to dictate EVERYTHING. For example, if I told her I had a boyfriend, she would forbid visitation because she didn't know and approve of the guy, which of course wasn't within her rights. I must say that I think a lot of men say they are denied visitation as an excuse. My aforementioned ex was not involved in our son's life for the first 5 years. There was no child support and I didn't know where he was or how to contact him. Now that he's back in touch, I've found out that he told people I wouldn't let him see his son and he tells me that his girlfriend at the time wouldn't let him contact us. I ignore all of this because it is irrelevant to his current relationship to my child, but it does give some insight into how some men will avoid responsibility.
Reply:Legally divorced parents with a court ruling on the custody of the kids and visiting rights should not be interfered with. In certain situations the court may prevent a parent from visiting rights such as mentally unstable person, violent and agressive behaviour, indifferent parent ar any other relevent reason. If problems arise after a legal divorce and visiting rights fixed, a fresh approach may be made to the courts for modification of the rights. Child abuse/sexual abuse is one of the main reasons for such denial.


Otherwise for the sake of the children, visits by the other parent should be allowed.
Reply:IMHO, the only justification for interferring with a parent's visitation rights, is if the parent is a danger to the child (physically OR mentally). And only the courts can determine that.
Reply:Never, but he just stopped coming. Broke my daughter's heart.





If you have reason to believe a non-custodial parent might flee with your child, you are bound to interfere--but you have to do it legally, not by playing games.
Reply:It is never, ever justified to interfere with a parent's visitation unless the child is in danger. Simple as.





And alot of jealous ex-girlfriends/wives tend to deny access just to spite their former partners, and vice-versa. This can really damage the kids as they grow. If they have both a mother and a father they can easily see and who will love them, then they should.





Glad to hear you get on with your ex and your situation is fine though! That's how adults should act, unfortunately alot of adults these days act like children.
Reply:My used to date a guy with a baby. His ex was a meth user so I encouraged him to get monitored visits. After he had to go to the hospital for eating cigarettes he started to believe me. Other than something like that, I think that's messed up. Either way it's his/her kid too and the kids father/mother.